I did not ask to be born a woman. At least presumably I didn’t ask. If we look too closely at this, we get into all sorts of things about pre-existing souls, reincarnation and what not. Neither fit into my system of belief, but neither am I absolutely sure of what happens after you die, or before you’re born, because how can I be? Eventually I’ll find the one out, the other also if my system is wrong. And in either case it matters very little to here and now.
However, I do know being born a woman wasn’t some sort of achievement, like I just won a race and deserve a medal. I am a woman, and that’s fine. My little tomboy self didn’t always think it was a good idea, this being a woman thing, but I’ve come to enjoy it. I can still slay dragons and drink but I can also wear bitching shoes while doing it, and no one looks at me sideways.
Or to put things another way: I have my limitations, my sticking points, and things I do that make people look at me oddly. The limitations and sticking points have bloody nothing to do with being female. Even in Portugal, where I was presumed to be dumber than most males (it’s a cultural thing) I never found that to be an impairment, because I wasn’t and I’d eventually show it. Also, because I’m that kind of person, I enjoyed the look of shock on their faces when I showed it. The sticking points: I’ve gone to pot, physically for various reasons, mostly having to do with hypothyroidism and asthma, and true, I was never as strong as most males. So in a test of strength, I’d have failed. But I was quite strong enough when I was young to carry furniture as heavy as the movers did, and for as long (I never had to tell my husband “I can’t lift this” until my fifties. And in a fight I just had to be twice as low-minded and nasty. Because a fight isn’t won on a straight up context of strength.
I never found being a woman an impairment. I did take shameless advantage of it a time or twenty. It’s easier to get out of a ticket, if you act the ditsy woman. It’s easier to diffuse a situation that for a male would end in a fight by smiling and talking in a “little girl lost” voice.
Do I feel bad about using the advantage that the evolutionary triggers against hurting females gives me? Oh, please. You are born who you are born. You use ALL your weapons. All of them. Why not? There are disadvantages that come with your advantages. There are disadvantages for everyone. You use all your advantages. They’re yours. Why wouldn’t you use them?
This morning, on facebook, in the context of talking about Saudi Arabia — keep that in mind — a woman instructed me (and the world in general) that women in America still have a long way to go. (And yes, she did wave Trump in the general direction of the argument, though what the man has to do with anything is beyond me. Using the word “pussy” might be crude, but holy hell, I don’t know any woman who hasn’t. And as for his saying that women would let wealthy men grab them by the pussy, he was stating women are hypergamic. And? It happens to be the pure biological truth. Yeah, crudely stated, but he thought he was in an informal occasion. It’s not like he was proclaiming it as policy that women should be grabbed by the pussy, which is what these twattwaffles seem to have convinced themselves of.
Let me add that for a man his age, in business as long as he was, if this is the worst they found of him, good lord, he’s clean. Far cleaner than any of their idols, not even just Billy Cigar Clinton.)
This reminded me of when my son got a letter from the chemistry department saying that women had now reached 60% of graduates, so women had to keep pushing.
Keep pushing for what? As I asked this woman, a long way to go WHERE? Women in the US are equal under the law. They get preferences in hiring and in being able to destroy a man’s reputation without any backing (Because hey #believeallwomen.) They are in fact treated like angels, not made of the same mortal clay as men.
They have a long way to go? Sure they do. They have a long way to go to be treated as real people, and learn to compete as adults.
But that’s not what these idiots are pushing for. They’re pushing for more and more privilege, and convincing themselves they live in a “patriarchy” and that they’re kept down. Most of the rest of the world laughs at American women as out of control termagants. Images of women parading with symbolic genitalia on their heads, and publicly worshiping their own sex-organs isn’t really convincing the rest of the world that equality and freedom for women is a good idea, either. Now Arabs have something to point at and say “If we let them out of burkas.”
Look, I get it. I DO. Women have no experience of being men (I don’t either, but I grew up in a male-friend-group and listened to them when they didn’t even realize I was there) and therefore every blockage and issue they encounter, they attribute to sexism. The grass is always greener on the other side of the sex divide.
Except it’s not. Men have their challenges and lack some of our advantages, and that’s before we get into insanity like preferential hiring and promoting for women.
If women bothered listening, they’d find that men aren’t some “privileged” creature who gets everything they want. A man or two, maybe. Those with tons of money, good looks, connections. How many of those are there in the world. Most men like most women struggle and are discriminated against, for myriad reasons.
And if a man not getting a promotion decides he’s discriminated against (a lot of them are, particularly in government-related projects) and women have it all their way, and therefore he’ll stop trying and wallow in his own victimhood, he’s the equivalent of these crazy women who think they live in a patriarchy.
All of us have the world rigged for and against us, and what sex we are is just part of it. We are all born with a set of cards. It’s the only cards we can play. Getting daddy government to give us new cards works for a while… and infantilizes us, and destroys our ability to think clearly, as we have proof daily.
I didn’t ask to be born a woman. All in all, I’m pretty happy with it, though, advantages and disadvantages. I loathed being pregnant partly because I spent so much of my life ill, and pregnancy is like illness. OTOH I love being a mother. I hated being treated like an idiot, in Portugal, but OTOH I could use trained chivalry against everyone including the police. I hated having to work at looking nice, but then could use that to sidestep a lot of issues that would confront a man.
Honestly, if I find I chose this body, my only complaint will be “auto-immune, really? WHY? JUST WHY?”
We all play the cards we’re given. Sometimes society is overwhelmingly unfair to a sex. The Arab countries come to mind, though I understand from private histories many women still find their place of power there. Which doesn’t mean that the ridiculous system shouldn’t be changed. No one should have to live life inside a sofa cover.
However, in Western countries, where we’re equal before the law, saying we have “a long way to go” borders on the insane.
What way do they want to go? Do they want the law to prevent people from saying or thinking men and women aren’t exactly the same? When you take in account the differences in IQ distribution and the massive differences in physical performance, how can you argue they are? And even if you could, even if people who assume women are weaker, or tend more to the middle of the IQ spectrum were OBJECTIVELY wrong, how do you stop people thinking that?
You don’t get to control other people’s thoughts. You don’t get to control other people’s actions. You don’t get to dictate every moment of everyone in society. That’s not a way you want to go. More importantly, that’s not the way we, lovers of freedom will let you go.
Play the hand you were dealt. Learn to improve your weaknesses. Stop imagining other people have it better than you. Envy is only a virtue in the despicable Marxist system. It will win you no points here.
Learn to be adults among adults. Or invite a backlash that I and other freedom loving females are dreading.
I don’t want my granddaughter to wear a burka, and I will fight to prevent it. Even when the fight amounts to telling crazy women they’re out of their rocking head.
Take your head out of your pussy. Your vagina doesn’t impress anyone except perhaps in very private situations. “But my sex organs” is not an adult argument.
Shut up and work.