Among the many moral precepts I failed to heed, mostly because I could make neither heads nor tails of it, was the “woe onto him who gives scandal. It were better for him if he were tied to a millstone and thrown into the sea.”
The illustration on that page of the cathecism was amazing, with all the vivid emotion of a Victorian lithograph, showing a man having his neck tied to the millstone, which of course led young geek me to stare at it and go, “Well, no worry throwing it in the sea. The minute they throw it anywhere his neck will be broken.”
At the same time, at my time of life, and the place where I lived, this seemed like a truly overblown reaction to the things my grandmother and her cronies called “scandal”: wearing your skirt a little too short; kissing your boyfriend; having loud parties.
In retrospect, these, and their slightly more serious cousin — getting knocked up before marriage — were indeed scandals, to an extent and in a way, but the scandal is to my mind more what we’re seeing unroll in Washington (or Rome): something that unmakes the rules of society and the world.
What I’m trying to say is that I keep hearing people who pay attention and seek their news beyond the media (because the way the media is behaving is a scandal) keep saying that, oh, the conspiracy of our State Department and the FBI against (at the time) a presidential candidate was a scandal. What is going on with Kavanaugh being accused of being a poopie head at an undisclosed location, with no witnesses when he was in high school, and the thing being taken seriously, or the accuser being praised for courage is a scandal. (At least half of the #metoo accusations and the way they were taken was a scandal.) For that matter the way that Benghazi was willingly covered up by a compliant and partisan media was a scandal. The entire Russia investigation nonsense is a scandal. The way conservatives (and more generally males) are treated in our society is a scandal.
A scandal is — as I see it, and I want to point out I’m no theological expert — an action or statement that so fundamentally breaks the rules on which the society/church/science/interest is based on that it unravels the thing upon which it stands.
So, were those kisses in public, the short skirts, the parties scandals? Definitely and to an extent. The pregnancy was more so. But they were little scandals. They were indeed breaking the rules of the society, and if you flaunt enough such breaks, the rule becomes dead letter.
Now, I happen to think a good many of these rules, in Portugal, when I was a kid, were in great need of being broken, or at least softened. Stuff like the skirts, or kissing your boyfriend, or even going out alone at night fall.
But I would think that, wouldn’t I, born in the early sixties and coming to age in the seventies, “let’s demolish oppressive rules” (particularly for women) was THE rule to follow. Of course where it led is not what we expected. We’ll leave it at that. I’m not someone who can judge it, particularly since I’m now acculturated to a culture where the rules were never as oppressive.
I still think the whole millstone treatment is a bit much for a quick peck with your boyfriend, or even a pre-marital pregnancy, but then again, I’m not good with rules.
On the other hand, the kind of scandal we’re saying, and coming closer and closer together, and unreported and thereby unpunished is dismantling the very underpinnings of our society.
You can’t have government trying to discredit a candidate without causing people to doubt all elections. You can’t have the vast amount of fraud we have without removing the underpinnings of our trust in elections. You can’t have “believe all women” without removing our judicial system, in which the accused is always presumed innocent, even if you found him with the smoking gun in his hand (he might after all have just picked it up after the murderer ran off.) You can’t have trial by rumor and innuendo without undermining our entire system.
It’s impossible. If without witnesses, without corroboration, with an history of false memories (she blames her therapist for her having thought that there were four attackers before) if Kavanaugh’s accuser is allowed to derail his nomination, a fundamental thread will have been pulled out of our social fabric. Hell, if she and everyone who is putting a man and his family through hell aren’t PUNISHED in fact, or in deed (by having their every shady moment brought to light) society has suffered a death blow.
“But Sarah,” you say. “Wouldn’t that intimidate some woman on coming forward, after suffering some assault?”
Sure is. If she comes out thirty years later, has no proof, has no witnesses and is demanding an FBI investigation of something that EVEN IF TRUE is NOT A CRIME. (Drunken groping might be boorish behavior, but it’s not assault or a crime. At least not depending on the severity, etc, which frankly, her being obviously drunk out of her gourd at the time is impossible to determine.)
Women are not gods. We never were. Just because we say something is so, it doesn’t mean it is.
Women lie. Just like men lie.
And beyond that, when you talk of something that long ago, women might believe they’re telling the truth, but there’s no guarantee they are. EVEN if they told their friends/parents — which this chick didn’t — women have often been mistaken/have hallucinated it/are not quite all there/recovered memories under therapist or not, which are largely fabrications.
Not only does the insistence that we believe some woman’s unprovable, vague recollections insane, the insistence that, even if they were true, they should derail the career of a man who has never had such an incident again, amounts to destroying everything we believe in. There is a reason that juvenile records are erased, and again, this is not even something that would warrant a record. Heck, I’ve been groped and pinned to walls by guys whose names I don’t remember (fortunately I was never drunk in public unless I was with my family, and even then just on the tipsy level. So most of those men got knee in the groin or hat pin ditto) but I would blush to derail even a job application by one of those guys, even if I knew who they were. To be a teen is to be uncouth. I suspect most of those men would now shy away from groping a total stranger with no encouragement (particularly if they remember the knee to the groin.
But there is something far more important than our judicial system at work. There is civilization as we know it.
Exaggeration? Not by much.
Already in every day life any man is held hostage to any woman. A woman, in our colleges, in our work places, in most de-facto living arrangements can end a man’s career by saying that he hurt her/abused her/failed to listen when she said (whispered/muttered) that she was uncomfortable. Most of our institutions don’t pursue investigations. They get rid of the man because it’s easier.
This is already causing males to be afraid to date, or be alone for any reason with a female. In the work place, this makes any type of cooperation between males and females risky and fraught.
These new rules as practiced are already hurting women (even women like me, who’d never make those accusations, because we’re not that neurotic.) And they do hurt some select men very badly indeed. Destroy many of them.
If we go on, if we keep assuming women are beings of light who never lie, never make up stuff, and whose word shouldn’t be checked, this goes one of two ways: the bad and the very bad.
The bad is where after a while people rebel. Look, the rules of cutting extra slack to women are there for a reason: we’re weaker; for a part of our lives we’re impaired by hormones and pregnancy; we have a disadvantage in working outside the house. So, some extra slack is cut and our path is eased (well, at least some of ours. I’ve never noticed it.)
The unspoken condition is that we don’t abuse that extra help, that extra protection (things like the fact that a woman wears provocative clothes or having a checkered past not being brought in on rape cases for instance) by using it as a cudgel to get our way and destroy men just because we want to destroy them, because we disagree with their political stands, or because they’re ugly and their mothers dress them funny, even.
Now this has been abused a long time everywhere else. Like the middle school trying to kick younger son out for kissing a girl against her will in the lunch line, while they had footage of him spending the whole time talking to his Spanish teacher. (Yes, they did say “maybe it was another day. Women don’t lie about this sort of thing.” Consider this and consider the unmaking of the world already in that assumption.) Yes, liberals (of all sexes) have tried conservatives by wholly made up rumor forever. Witness idiot last week who decided an anti-Marxist article was anti-racial-subgroup of the day. And the rumor goes forth, and the left believes it, because it’s convenient to believe it. This has been going on a long time, because they need to believe everyone who disagrees with them is a villain. Or that designated “evil” people like males are villains. It makes the inevitable purges and gulags of Marxism seem justified.
But when it happens this publicly, this obviously, this nakedly, this in-the-public-eye? The scandal is magnified twenty fold.
When women do things like that, and do that publicly and openly enough, and experience no punishment, society — if it still has enough cohesion to save itself — will turn against us. With a great convulsion the “make the way easier for females” will be cast out. And we’ll be cast in the same position as women in Muslim countries. Our word will be worth nothing, and we’ll be sexual and emotional playthings of men. If you think it can’t happen here, you’re not aware of both the great anger building up, and the foundational nature of the crime against everything this society is built on taking place.
That’s the bad result. But there’s a very bad one. Which is that this is allowed to continue and every woman is allowed to be a tin-pot dictator, capricious and irrational like the wind.
In that future — and we’re almost there — humanity doesn’t survive, because men simply disengage from women. There are other sources of pleasure, and they’ll just stop risking playing kissy face with the alligator.
So, what can you do? You can make sure this is the scandal it indeed is. Make a great noise. Point out how this is unraveling all of our system.
And vote. Vote against every ass clown who is howling for a man’s blood based on a crazy accusation of non-crime. And vote against everyone of the same party who doesn’t immediately and vocally disavow the ass clowns and all the madness they stand for.
Because if this is allowed to stand, it were better for them if they were tied to a millstone and cast into the ocean.
And for that matter, us too.