I normally don’t post politics here.* There’s always a first time for everything. And the everything right now is the fact that half of my field would rather commit suicide than actually think. Particularly when thinking involves not repeating slogans that are pushed at them from above with the implication that “all the coolest kids think this way.”
Again, blame it on us being misfits, and misfits’ own misfits besides. We’d do anything to fit in. Well, most of us. I still prefer to stand by the side of the road holding both middle fingers up.
On my Facebook page I echoed a friend’s post of a Heinlein poster with a quote about how forcing a man to pay for a service he doesn’t want “for his own good” is the greatest tyranny. This did not apply to any current controversy. It applied ONLY to the general fact that – is this news to anyone? – I don’t like taxation. I don’t think pacifists should have to pay for war, and I don’t think I should have to pay for stupid crony capitalism.
In minus three seconds, someone brought up that a worse tyranny than this was the “War on Women.”
Let me point out right now that if I hear that phrase once more I’m going to lose it. No, forget that. I’m going lose it right NOW.
Let me tell you what war is, okay?
War is where the enemy decimates your numbers – like, say in China where abortion is killing mostly females.
War is where you are kept from learning – like in most Arab countries, where women have restrictions placed on their education.
War is where your houses are burned, your children taken away into slavery, your goods looted, and you are dragged away in chains.
In the United States, right now, women have preferential treatment – by law – in any company that gets federal funds (which heaven help us, right now, is most of them.) Women live longer than men. Cancers that affect females get more money and more attention than those that affect only men. Women have the right to be sole deciders on abortion, and if they decide to keep the child and make the man pay, he pays. (This by the way is a complete reversal of the “penalty” of sex which used to fall mostly on women.) And if he doesn’t pay, he goes to jail. Divorce courts award custody to mothers overwhelmingly. Oh, and in college campuses, women outnumber men.
If this is war it is war on men. And I’ve had just about enough of everyone who claims otherwise.
And please don’t come back and say women have to carry babies and this is unfair. Or that men are stronger and this is unfair. Or that… This is NOT kindergarten. LIFE is unfair. NATURE is unfair. Civilization and society can only go so far to compensate for the basic inequality of nature. It is not the job of nature or government to turn us all into neuters with the exact same aptitudes and abilities. And I, for one, am glad. If you’re not, consider your relationship with your own gender. I suggest your war is mostly internal.
If you truly believe refusing to force employers to pay for birth control is a war on women, then you are fragile little flowers who deserve to experience life practically anywhere else in the world. You are also unleashing a monster. Get the government to force this and NOTHING is out of bonds. Forget selling you the rope to hang you with. The government will eventually force you to pay them to hang you.
I’d like to believe the comment is wrong which I read on some blog defining feminists as a potemkin village of bicycled fish. But judging by how American women seem to be so completely embarrassed by their vaginas that they demand all sorts of compensation and affirmation of their specialness, I’m very afraid the comment was right. These women have things like Vagina Monologues (Imagine, Penis Monologues could ONLY be a middle school play, but because it’s the FEMALE body part we’re supposed to be in awe of it. WHY?) and go on about how they’re powerful, but melt in a pile of hysteria because someone was less than respectful to them.
Meanwhile, real women need someone else to pay for their contraception or give them a hand up in school or business like a fish needs a bicycle and would NOT stoop to having special treatment lavished on them. They meet men as equals and refuse to be afraid of them, or ashamed of who they are.
I know! Let’s make war on men, and refuse to listen to them when they’re abused, ignore their claims to their children, take away their right to choose if they want to be fathers (and pay for it) or not, design the school system so it doesn’t fit either their learning style or their development and oh, yes, drug them so they don’t act like boys AND all the while scream that they’re the ones hurting us.
Which would be distinguishable from the present state of affairs, because….
Is that crickets I hear? Oh, yes it is.
On behalf of all the women with male children; on behalf of all the women with male spouses, on behalf of all the women who are NOT ashamed of being women, and who DO actually like men – it’s time to stop beating on males and screaming we’re being hurt.
Make love, not war.
Update: I truly am very busy with updates, and other than dipping in very occasionally and posting an answer to a comment that struck me, I don’t have time to answer the same questions over and over, like, you know, “women pay for insurance, therefore they pay for their contraceptives” — well, no. Employers at least match costs, and sometimes more. Or “aren’t women entitled to contraceptives the same way they’re entitled to other medicines” well, no. It’s not therapeutic. If you have a medical condition that REQUIRES contraceptives, then even churches furnish them. Otherwise, like infertility treatment which bankrupted my young self it’s your choice and therefore not necessarily covered. (Most employers do cover contraception because it’s cheap.) “You’re a gender traitor” oh, please. Who sold you a bill of goods kid? Your genitalia, your skin color, your orientation, none of those are predictive of how you think. If you think they are, you’re just a sheep. Remember what happens to sheep in the end. Yes, I was born female. I’ve never let it limit my life or my thoughts and I see no reason why it should. Other females are my sisters? Under whose genetics? And if so, males are my brothers. Why should I love one more than the other. We should discuss women in other countries? WHY? You are all going unhinged here. And watching the fine fruit of feminism in the anglosphere, why would any other country follow suit? But if you want to fight for female rights worldwide, I salute you. It is at least a worthy endeavor. However, remember their culture is not ours and don’t extrapolate backwards. MOST American men want equals — that’s the result of frontier life and WWII and a lot of other things. They don’t like women covered in sofa-slip-covers. So don’t say “It could happen here, if we don’t continue beating on males.” It d*mn well couldn’t. A lot of American women have guns. And the others should think about it. Then think about why you equate having to pay the full cost of contraceptives with being pregnant and barefoot in kitchen. Condoms are very cheap, pills that are not for other conditions, ditto, and diaphragms a little more. It’s not worth violating your fellow citizens conscience over. The same state that mandates they give you contraceptives now, could make them go away tomorrow, if they thought they needed more kids. Towards the end of the Sov Union contraception and abortions were well nigh impossible to get. I’ve heard stories of condoms washed and reused. The state that gives can also take away. Trust not the state.
Most of the comments about women having the right to this and the right to that and not having any RESPONSIBILITY for themselves or the culture they’re distorting, which, yes, all echo each other, made me wake up today thinking about this clip.
I think most of these people are not so much at war with men, as they’re at war with reality. Apparently the seventies feminist fallacy about gender being infinitely moldable never stopped resonating with some people. But, it’s not, and girls will be girls and boys will be boys, otherwise all you end up with is truncated versions of both and a wrecked future. And this mother of boys and science fiction writer would prefer you think about what you’re doing and whether you really want this.