Look into my eyes. Come on. Look. From now on, you’ll only do exactly what I think is right, and you’ll forswear anything that annoys me.
No, don’t look away.
What do you mean that didn’t work?
I have it on the best authority of the left that this works perfectly well, or at least works perfectly well when used by a member of the same “class” which these cays means same general “widget class.” (You know, you share superficial characteristics, like the same skin tone, or the same general education, or the same sex, or the same general attraction, or the same… etc. etc.)
This is how you come across women saying things like “If men don’t want me to treat them like crap, they shouldn’t do–” And the list that follows is something that 99% of men wouldn’t do or think of doing. Say, feeling up a strange woman in public transport; or call out rude things to women, or even the rather innocuous “expect all women to smile.”
Uh…. okay, so, I presume they think that men can psychically control other men. Because if men can’t, then this makes no sense whatsoever.
Men do this too, btw. “If women don’t want me to treat them like brainless morons, they should stop acting like bubble heads.” Or “If women don’t want me to treat them like sluts, they should stop being attracted to–” Or “If women don’t want me to assume they’re all leftist, they shouldn’t act like–” Uh… Dude. If I had any control over the crazy-ass slut-walkers do you think they’d still be dressing like sluts and demanding you don’t look at them?
And yet, you get this constantly. You complain about some form of mistreatment and you get told that you personally deserve this because someone like you did something bad.
Now while it goes somewhat the other way, a lot of this is about classes of people the left has decided they don’t like: white people, men, rich people, poor people, women who aren’t leftists… well, pretty much anyone who doesn’t sing from the leftist hymnal.
Inevitably, if you complain about some crazy cakes leftist behavior towards someone, you get as an answer “well, someone like you did this.”
Um… do they think people who look alike/are in similar circumstances share a brain? Which brings to mind another question “do they share a brain? Is that why they’re extrapolating” Don’t answer that.
And then there are the even crazier demands. We’ve all heard them:
-It should be safe for women to walk down the street in any neighborhood after dark without being assaulted.
Uh… okay. But how do you plan to enforce that? How is it even possible? Even if 99.9% of guys were completely decent and chivalrous (what is the rate of criminals per 1000? Specifically criminals who are dangerous to women? Is it much higher than 1 per 1000? I don’ even know, because of course this is per neighborhood, not per country or even humanity as a whole.) there would be that one man in one thousand. Can you be sure that one man in one thousand isn’t in that street you’re proposing to walk down right now?
And of course, that one man in one thousand won’t attack just one woman. No, he’ll attack dozens or perhaps hundreds of them until he’s stopped. (BTW this is the craziest ass response to saying women should learn self defense. I will quote: “No, because then the man will just attack another woman who isn’t defended.” Uh. No he won’t. Because if you’ve effectively defended yourself, you made sure he either can’t or will have serious trouble attacking anyone. Look here, sister, paraplegics rarely become serial rapists. Note I don’t say never. But you can certainly reduce someone’s criminal career.)
So, how are men — and why are men more capable of this than women? Don’t know. But this demand is usually made of “men” in general — supposed to prevent that one man in a thousand from attacking women?
Don’t know. I can’t get crazy women from demanding that they “should be safe to walk down any street.” I mean, I completely agree with them that they SHOULD. In a perfect world, we should all be safe all the time. But that doesn’t make it imperative, or furnish any mechanism to make that happen.
Because here’s the thing: you can’t get into people’s heads and make them act the way you want them to. Even if the way you want them to act is like decent human beings, and that’s it. You don’t want them to sing, dance, be able to speak Greek and Latin, or suddenly, overnight, become endowed with the capacity to always be charming and polite. No, all you want to do is keep them from acting like animals, attacking strangers, hurting and stealing from others. That’s all you want.
But you can’t do it. There is no method known to anyone of making everyone on the planet act decently. NONE. There’s always going to be that one person, male or female, who thinks it is great fun to hurt others and take their stuff. The more subtle of them even disguise it and get away with it longer. And you can’t stop it, because you can’t get in their heads and make them quit doing it.
Sure, punishment has some effect. Deterrence — via punishment, or just the possibility of a potential victim defending him/herself — has some effect… Actually those are the only two things that have some effect. Note I said “some.”
However there is no real way of making a criminal stop committing crimes other than death. And I’m absolutely serious about that.
Sure, paraplegics have trouble committing sexual assault, but we’re probably going to find out at least one person who somehow managed it. We know castration, real or chemical doesn’t work to stop sexual assailants. We know even what we’d consider cruel and unusual punishment, like lopping off hands don’t stop theft. Sure, they deter it, but they don’t stop it. And we know even the threat of public hangings never stopped murder. Sure, they might make it less likely (this is incredibly difficult measure, of course) but they didn’t stop them completely.
This is because humans are — get this — individuals. And some individuals will be twisted. (And no, you can’t fix it with education, early childhood support or tender loving care. Being twisted is part of the human make up. You know, the heart is wicked and deceitful and all that? Yeah.) And some will not ever realize they should control their desires to do bad things to others.
It doesn’t matter how few those are. They are going to exist. And if they exist, there’s always the possibility of their victimizing someone.
Even the safest societies have crime, and criminals.
So what can you do about it?
You defend yourself. You teach other people to defend themselves. You make it less likely that the criminal, be he one in two or one in a thousand succeed.
Because you’re not psychic. And you don’t have psychic control over everyone else. And neither does anyone else. No, not even people who look like whatever specific criminal.
I agree with you: no one should be murdered; no woman should be attacked; no child should ever be abused; heck, no pet should ever be abused. The world should be a safe and happy place, where everyone wakes up with a smile and goes to bed thinking happy thoughts.
Where we disagree is the idea that I — or anyone — can get in the head of someone determined to act against moral or law and make them refrain.
I can’t do that, and I don’t think you can either.
So stop trying to Svengali, and start making like an adult, who ensures his or her own safety. And who doesn’t cry “but it shouldn’t be that way.”
Because trust me, if anyone could control the way other people behave, you’d have stopped whining long ago.